First Published on “The Juggler”
I think that if I had to pick one thing that upsets the bunnies the most, it’s the fact that most bunnyhunters make fun of them.
Yes, Virginia, there is a reason for it. It stems from frustration.
I feel that it is impossible to NOT make fun of people when they hit the “100” ring on the “Bullshit target”. That there is a viceral reaction to having that much incredulity dumped on your system at one time and the humor as a reaction is unavoidable.
Looked at objectively, every bunnyhunter will admit that there are times when their attacks and their sarcasm approches the mean. In fact, I can’t think of a hunter who has not hurt (at some times very baddly) the target of their scorn.
I don’t know if this is totally unintentional. But the use of humor for the hunter is a defense mechanism, a way to go “WTF” and to deal with the initial desire to really attack the target. Making fun of the bunny in question, behind their backs and in a closed forum where the bunny can’t be embarrassed by public ridicule, lets the hunters vent frustration and make all the snarky comments they need to to get it out of their system.
See, here’s the quandary. Most of those who hunt bunnies, the ones who are honestly trying to educate the new and the uninformed, tend to be people who could be considered “elders” in Wicca and their respecive Pagan traditions. Because of that status, we have to remain in control and kind and courteous to be a good representative of our traditions to others. We also have to be representatives of the Gods in some cases, helping and teaching where needed.
But, we are also human. The human impulse to yell and scream at incompetance, to deride unintelligence, to abuse and to bully are all part of the human condition. It is natural to feel these impulses, but we are not allowed to show them or to give life to those feelings.
So, what is left? Bottle them up until they become psychoses? Do we keep it all and finally blow up all over some poor newbie who truly is wanting to learn, simply because they said something uninformed? Or do we find constructive ways to let out our frustration and anger, through ridicule and support and then deal with the situations without destroying our reputations?
I choose the latter.
If this causes some little bunny distress to know that I am making fun of them in a forum where only others like me come, then so be it. I can live with that. If they change their behavior, my ridicule of them will, of course, change. If it means that I can hold it together when I read “9 millun europen wimmen died in teh burning timez. That somg said so!” then that’s acceptable to me. If it allows me to avoid those pesky peptic ulsers from stress, well and good.
And don’t think for a second that were the positions reversed that these poor bunnies wouldn’t make fun of me. I’ve had it happen on more than one occasion. They go to my site and find a fact about me or something that I have said, and it’s held up for public ridicule. Which shows which is the lesser person, since I was making fun of them in a way that wouldn’t affect their reputation in a public way, and they are not.
And let’s be honest here, the behavior of the typical bunny is so amusing that you can’t help but laugh out loud. I say “Unicorns are mythic figures, wonderful and magickal, but they don’t exist anymore in this plane.” The bunny then says “BUt i have a unicorn in my backyward and i wub my widdie unicorn!” I say something along the lines of “believe that if you want, but until I see concrete proof I won’t buy into that.” Then I normally get a “WHY ARE YOU BEING SO MEAN????” back.
Look at the conversation. I have not been “mean” at any point, unless you count refusing to buy into a delusion as being mean. As if my rejection of the statement until proven is a categorical rejection of them.
From there, normally it goes into explanations, more recriminations and so on, until they finally say “I’m leaving here and NEVER COMING BACK AGAIN!!!” I breathe a sigh of relief because it means the dramallama is gone. Several days later they come back and generally push the issue again, trying to stir up the drama ONCE again. Which means that their “flounce out” is actually a boomerang action.
How can you NOT laugh at these kinds of actions? The only healthy response is to laugh because the only other option is to scream and be as emo as the bunny themselves.
Had these people common skills like debate, not taking it personally, a detatchment where they don’t identify so strongly with what they have said, and a healthy skepticism, I’d have a lot more respect for them and I would refuse to hunt them or to make fun of those bunnies. In fact, I know a multitude of people like that, who have general life skills and who are grossly ignorant, but I don’t make fun of them, nor do I go out to cause them distress.
Laughter is sacred to the Gods. The Discordians/Erisians know that. There are times it is the only way to banish negativity and release the endorphins in the brain that will clear the cobwebs. Laughter is good.
That is why there is such a huge movement to make fun of the bunnies in varous communities like WiccaVent or dot_pagan_snark. It’s the only way to stay sane.