I follow a lot of people here (on Tumblr), and most apparently don’t understand that it’s not just the outside package that is beautiful, but the internal personality, attitude, love and joy that shine out that combine to make someone beautiful.
Yes, the outside package is what people react to first. Yes, it is the one that most will judge you on first. But just like a Christmas Present, sparkly gold paper and nice ribbons do not make the Popeil Pocket Fisherman any better. Just like wrapping an iPad in the comic section of the newspaper doesn’t detract from the present.
However, since humans are visual oriented, presenting an attractive outer casing is what seems to be important in the very short term. Yes, beautiful people are more desirable to be around, they are more envied, but that is ONLY because people who look at them ONLY see them as the outer casing. Just as if you only saw the gold wrapped package or the comics wrapped package. The casing would be what you would judge on first.
And we are even warned against this. ”Don’t judge a book by its cover.” ”Beauty is only skin deep…” and many other such sayings warn us that it’s not the casing, the package, the wrapping that is important, but the contents of the mind, soul and spirit.
So I see people worried about their appearance to the exclusion of all else, and I get very sad. I get upset when I see someone who only thinks that attractive appearance is what is important. Hey, I like looking at pretty things around me too, but to stay around those pretty things there has to be more than just pretty appearance. Because beauty fades, the nicest flower in the world will whither, and the most gorgeous gown will rot with time. But the personality and the internal qualities are what will last.
I’ve known many girls in my life. The beautiful ones are very rarely the ones who stay “beautiful” and “thin” and “tanned” and “fit” and “skinny” three or more years after I come to know them. There are a few like that, but most understand that while their looks may have initially turned my head and had me look at them, the contents of their character are what kept me around.
And I’ll tell you something else. It’s the “sad, weird” people I enjoy spending time around. Cookie cutter personalities like are shown on Mean Girls or Bring it On are not anything that interests me. But the girl with an armful of books, the one who wears spiked hair or a collar, the girl with the black makeup and the pale complexion, THOSE people are interesting. They have a persona they want to show, and they apparently are willing to show it and be contrary to society rather than trying to conform and blend in.
Those people are worth the time to get to know.
So, ladies and gentlemen, no matter who you are, please revel in yourself. Yes, put on an attractive appearance but understand it is not the appearance that will keep someone around. The gestalt of you is what keeps someone. And understand that even if this person over here left you, it is their loss due to you being a beautiful creature. Someone else will be with you and the others, well, they have to content themselves with the Pocket Fisherman.